10/28/2005

Someone to listen

I made a comment on another blog, not a bad comment - actually it was quite compassionate. But, as it turns out this person really doesn't want people to comment on her posts. Makes me wonder then, why not turn off the commenting feature? Anywho, I was a bit taken back by her tongue lashing to all those who did leave comments. She said we didn't know her, didn't understand her situation and that she didn't need people telling her how to feel. I suppose she's right, we fellow bloggers don't know her. It got me thinking about the reasons people blog. I know why I do, I have so much to say - yet so few people to listen. Maybe it's the same for most people. Maybe some of us blog out of boredom, frustration, or in the hopes of being discovered - for something more than we are. The reasons I'm sure, are all different. Regardless of why you come here, one thing remains the same, typing your thoughts onto a web-o-sphere journal is inviting someone into your life that you otherwise would never extend that courtesy. If you don't want people looking - close the shade.

22 Comments:

  1. NewYorkMoments said...
    Yeah, I've seen some ugly rows. I've also seen people who just delete comments that they don't agree with. The blogosphere is a unique and interesting place.
    WDKY said...
    I just like to air my thoughts. I like your thoughts too.

    Oh, and I like your new blog. It's clearly a craze at the moment.
    Networkchic said...
    WDKY and NYM you inspired me to do something different. I got tired of looking at GREEEEEN.
    NewYorkMoments said...
    Hey---love the new blog template :-)
    Claire said...
    Nice new layout, I could only see the text when I highlighted with the mouse though...

    Don't worry about that person, it says more about them than you.

    I didn't think about it before but I guess I blog too because I have a lot to say and not enough people to listen. Quite sad really. But it is also a good way of meeting new people. I was using LJ for a long time (I still sync my entries there) and it just became too cliquey for me so I pulled back from it. Now I live in my own little world where I am much happier:-)
    Networkchic said...
    Oh I had quite a time with this template. probably because I tried to modify it with my own html- geek that I am.

    It is sad isn't it Claire that we all have so much to say and often to little of an audience. I think blogging can actually teach us to be better listeners.
    kimmyk said...
    I started blogging because someone sent me an email and said "hey i got a blog check it out" and i thought.."why the f should he have a blog and not me?"
    i'm glad i do it, but i have a pretty boring hum drum life-i could delete my blog and be happy, but i'd be a commenting whore for sure then. I love reading other people's stories/lives....some are exciting, some are trashy (which can be good) but sometimes i feel like such a perv peeking in on them, and then there are those that forever touch your heart. those are the blogs i like reading-that's why i link 'em.
    Shannon said...
    Network chic... well I am curious who this person is... LOL just because I am like that... cool blogg.. mine is pretty new and I am just getting the hang of it. I started blogging at first for fun I have a celeb gossip column... LOL and then I ran into some recovery people and I am soo addicted, sometimes its like a meeting at work for me... well happy Friday!
    NMAMFQLMSH said...
    Shit, I'm an adult. Damn it, that just ruined my whole weekend...lol.
    Yes, she/he/it should of turned off her comments if she didn't want any. Geez...friggin people. Anyway, thanks for linking me up and I will be doing the same with your blog once I finish paying the bills and cleaning...lol. Have a great weekend.
    Peace,
    JJ
    sirreene said...
    First, love the look, second: Give us the blog address so WE ALL CAN COMMENT. Then maybe the person will get the idea that they either turn off the comments or don't put their personal thoughts on a PUBLIC agenda, (ugh! shakes head) insane!!
    Networkchic said...
    Yeah you know I guess it really offended me that she said I was being 'assuming'. One thing I don't do - is assume things. I swear you try to be helpful and you just get a kick in the arse. My cheeks are getting sore.
    ... jacek ... said...
    whatever, people are asses. dont let it bother you, and the other blogger can kindly go f herself
    kimmyk said...
    I FORGOT TO SAY:

    LOVE the new look!!! My daughter has that psycho bunny on a bunch of her hot topic t-shirts. Very cute!
    Violet said...
    Hey! Love the new look! I was just browsing this morning for a new template....maybe this weekend...
    TJ said...
    Hey, great job on the new look!

    Yeah, do what Sirreene suggested--tell us who the uptight blogger is and we'll all be sure to stop by and give our two cents...
    k o w said...
    Nice new digs!

    If someone doesn't want comments thier an idiot. I'd much rather hear an objective pov from someone I don't know than some bullshit from someone I do know.

    y'know?
    Networkchic said...
    Thanks...it's nice and pretty hear and there are bunnies and stuff to look at.

    People are strange. I think it has more to do with wanting someone to say, "aw, sorry you are so miserable." Instead of someone saying...you know you create your own misery. Oh well...
    Sky said...
    Network, anytime you want to leave an opinion you are more than welcome at my blogspace! Like you said if you don't want anyone's advice, turn the comments off! Period.
    NML said...
    Hey there. I saw what happened and I was taken aback although based on what seems to be going on with the blogger in question, I think things in her head got a little out of control. I know that she was angry and harsh and she recognises that. I've told her to calm down and not to lash out. To be honest, I don't actually think she knows how to turn off the comments for that particular post! It is obvious that she is going through an extremely difficult time and attempting to use it as an outlet, but between the other bunch of people being on her case in the 'real' world, I think she got very defensive when she felt she was getting unsolicited advice.
    Anyway, the blogosphere is a strange place and i have seen some whopping rows take place and people can be very funny about comments. I know of another blogger who as soon as anything that is the opposite of their view is said, gets really nasty with the readers.
    Personally, as long as it isn't racist or hateful, I don't give a f*ck what people comment. I leave the facility there so I'm obviously inviting comments. I get a sh*tload of unsolicited advice but it doesn't bother me and I'm a grown woman and can make my own decisions and pick and choose what I don't want to pay attention to. However, I have come across a *lot* of bloggers getting very sensitive to the advice thing so I tread carefully.
    Don't let it knock you and as I pointed out to the blogger, there was nothing but good intentions in your comment.
    it's all about me said...
    I like the new look.

    Blogging is fascinating. Immediacy, intimacy and very little small talk. Plus access to the inner thoughts of so many different types of people from all around the world. What's not to like?
    Sass said...
    I agree she should have just turned off the comments on her blog. Most of the bloggers I know are, ahem, comment whores. Perhaps the lass is a bit dramatic. Either way - do your thing.
    Her Daddy's Eyes said...
    Damn right! Well written post!

    I can't understand it...aww well...I enjoy comments! :)

    Love the new look!

    ~Eyes

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