11/17/2005
I'm really getting good with Photoshop. This pic is actually taken when I was pregnant...can't tell can you? Happy HNT.
Some of you may remember a post I wrote awhile back about my niece who was being pressured by her boyfriend to have sex. She asked me for my advice and I was honest, I told her that giving up such an important piece of yourself for someone else, would affect her for the rest of her life. She listened to me, surprisingly, and her boyfriend stayed. I wasn't really surprised when her boyfriend stuck around because I remember that even at that tender age boys and girls, can be very manipulative. They know if they stick around long enough, apply enough pressure, the will most likely get what they want. My sweet niece, is no longer a virgin.
Her heart is now broken and she asks me why love hurts so much. I cannot answer. She asks me when it will stop hurting, I say nothing because sometimes it never stops hurting. Sometimes you just get so used to the pain that you don't notice it anymore. She wants to know if I still remember my first broken heart, I say yes because I do remember. She wants to know if hearts really do mend, I say 'sometimes'. She wants to know if loving someone will always hurt this much, I say yes, love knows no other way. She wants to know if love gets easier when you grow up, I say no, it gets harder. She wants to know why we keep falling in love if we know that it hurts, I say because falling in love doesn't hurt - at first. She wants to know if love can last, I say yes -sometimes. She wants to know how you'll know when you are loving the right person, I say when you can look in the mirror - and not be afraid of who you see staring back at you. She wants to know if it's ok to cry, I don't answer, instead I cry with her.
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Have a great one x
Now onto your niece-how old is she NWC? That's so sad. Ugh. It's so hard I'm tellin ya...I have a niece I worry about with peer pressure-in her school (she's in the 9th grade) having anal sex is the rage because it is not ' vaginal ' intercourse and therefore, you remain a virgin. Oral sex is a big one too. I don't get what is happening to the boys and where are their role models anymore. My heart broke for her.....I hope she chooses now to remain abstinent til she's really ready to give that part of herself to someone again.
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JJ
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For your niece, my heart breaks with her. I regret the first time I had sex. It was not a joyous occasion. She is such a lucky girl to have you for an aunt. I'm sure she loves you ever so muc.
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If only we had the wisdom we do now when we were that young... the thing is we probably wouldn't even believe ourselves back then.
Blessings to you and your niece and the boys who cross her path!
As far as your neice, glad she has you. I agree with everything you said, pretty much. Adults aren't that much different in their actions then kids, only difference is adults should know better.